So, this has been something that has come up a lot with me. It has been on my mind from the beginning. It has to do with dolls and decorations for Mezmur depicting a white girl with yellow hair and blue eyes. My gut feeling is, "No, Mezmur will have only dolls that depict her color and heritage." Is this a healthy way to think? Well, yesterday in the mail from an elderly friend of my grandparents Mezmur received the most Anglo doll I've ever seen. My first reaction was to shove it back in the box and not to let Mezmur see it. Then I thought I would see how she looked on the shelf with the other dolls. Wow, she stuck out like a sore thumb. By not giving Mezmur white dolls am I telling her difference is not good? Growing up we all had a Cabbage Patch or doll from a different culture. I had a Cabbage Patch from China. There is nothing wrong with that, so what is the difference? Well, I think the difference comes from the fact that Mezmur is Ethiopian being raised in a predominantly white population. What it all comes down to is...we just want to do right by Mezmur. Not just "right", but 100% right. We want her to have a high self esteem and grow up a strong woman who loves her heritage and the home she grew up in. I feel like this is my first challenge. It may be a little silly to some of you that it is over dolls, but it is sort of a big deal to me.
I would like to know if any of you have any thoughts on this subject. Please leave a comment with thoughts on either side of the doll issue. I must say...the more I ponder this issue and the more I delay pushing the publish button the more I think that the key is...balance.