Here's the story. The call that happened a year ago that devastated us. The call I still think about.
Let me preface this story by saying two things. First, Mezmur was meant for us. She is such a perfect match for our family that it is eerie at times. We were also meant for her. Not a lot of parents would have the patience for her antics like we do. I'm serious, she is crazy. Second, it's the nature of adoption. If our paperwork was in 2 days, 3 days, or one week earlier our daughter wouldn't have been Mezmur. It is so weird to think about.
What happened devastated us so much at the time. It made me question so many things. I didn't make it public, because it was personal and I didn't want to "hurt" our agency or our adoption. Today, I just feel like I want to write it down and get it off my chest.
Exactly one week before we got "the call" for Mezmur we got another call. A call for a baby boy. She got us both on the phone. I was crying, shaking, and couldn't wait for the news. This was the call I had waited so long for. The call I had daydreamed about. When she said "boy" I said, "Well, I guess Dan and I have something to talk about." It was like I birthed a boy. I couldn't push him back. Once she realized the mistake and we realized the reality of adoption she said good-bye and called another family immediately after hanging up the phone with us. The reality of adoption is that if you request a sex and age (for us a girl 0-14 months) that is what you are approved for. You can change this, but it would mean redoing some paperwork and getting approval of the change. I do believe our agency handled it poorly by immediately referring that baby boy out to another family before talking to us once more. Before making sure we were ok. I'm not sure we would have changed our paperwork, but knowing she hung up the phone while I sat there in shock and called another family for the same baby boy just didn't sit well with me.
I want to say, that I believe there is no agency that is free from mistakes of any kind. I also am so thankful for our agency for bringing us our daughter. I also feel as though our agency is one of the most ethical agencies working in Ethiopia right now. For all these reasons...I would use them again.