Our sweet little girl sure has a way with people. It drives us crazy. It could be an attachment issue, it could be a coping trait from the orphanage, or it could just be her personality. She walks into a room and gets attention from anyone she can. Let me tell you...she gets attention everywhere we go. Every mother wants her child to play with Mezmur, every woman wants to give her gifts, every man has a smile for her. She calls strangers "friends." A woman at a restaurant took her bracelet off her wrist to give to Mezmur. She didn't listen to my pleads for her not to give it to her. Another Aunt took the ball she just bought her niece and insisted she give it to Mezmur. A group of ladies at the ice cream shop had to give Mezmur something, so they gave her napkins. Moms at the park give Mezmur their snacks. Rhett will be standing right next to Mezmur and he isn't given the time of day...except for when he gets disciplined by strangers for treating Mezmur like his sister (wrestling her, picking her up, yelling at her...). I'm always there and step in when needed, but it's as if these strangers think Mezmur needs "saving." Mezmur also "gives" to strangers. She will sit in their laps, she will brush the hair out of other women's eyes, she will hold a stranger's hand. She tells women she doesn't know very well that they are beautiful and that their hair and jewelry are beautiful. She told a stranger at the park while she sat in her lap, "Your earrings are beautiful. Can I take them home now?" I'm told often that Mezmur has an aura or something about her that can't be explained. People are drawn to her. I understand that. We are biased. We think she is beautiful and perfect...she is our daughter.
One day this might get her somewhere in life, but right now...it just drives me crazy. Some days she won't hold my hand to cross the street, but she will turn around and tell a woman she doesn't know, "You are beautiful." I know she loves me and she tells me I'm beautiful, but seeing her do all of this and seeing how others respond to her can be very bothersome.
We love our Mezmur and just want to tell the world...she is our baby girl and she is very much loved.
* I wanted to add a couple of things to this post in response to the comments I've gotten. First of all...these strangers think they are acting appropriately, but they are not acting in the best interest of Mezmur. When Mezmur was very young I took her to a library story time. She wanted to sit in every other mom's lap, but mine. I actually took her from a mom's lap kicking and screaming and all the while these moms are saying, "It's ok." No it isn't. I am her mom and her needs need to be met by me. Secondly, the reaction I get from many when I talk about this issue is that it is normal and I should be happy she is outgoing and not shy. Basically, "pooh poohing" my instincts. It is absolutely not ok for Mezmur to walk into a room of strangers and find out who will give her attention. Once at a party we told her she couldn't eat any more berries off the fruit platter. Shortly after we told her no, we saw her with a plate piled high with berries. She found someone to give her what she wanted and this person didn't even think in necessary to ask us...we were the ones who were going to have to change that berry filled diaper, after all.